I have been divorced from my children’s father now for 14 years. My son was 1 year old and my daughter was 4 years old when we separated. Our separation and divorce were anything but peaceful. Thankfully over the course of time, we have been able to put our differences aside for the sake of our two young children.
Now, 14 years and a shit ton of life lessons later, I am here writing this post in order to express my extreme gratitude for my ex-husband and his wife.
It is almost the start of a new decade and I am currently packing my bags and preparing for a 1 month long, self-love retreat in my favorite city, Sedona, AZ. I have just reached a point in life where I am learning that it’s necessary to take care of myself first and foremost.
Most people would say “I can’t spend a month by myself in Sedona because I have kids.”
Well, I’m going because I believe the opposite is true. I have to spend a month by myself, in Sedona, because I have kids… and they deserve the best version of me.
Obviously, in order to make this dream a reality I knew I needed the support of my children’s other parents because they would need to spend some extra time there while I am away.
Now, let’s be real. How many single/divorced parents do you know off the top of your head that would basically say “No problem! Go away for a month, spoil yourself, you deserve it. We have no problem doing all the kid things while you are gone.“
Well friends, that’s exactly what happened and that’s exactly why I am writing this letter to my ex-husband and his wife…
Dear Shawn & Tina,
Thank you for being supportive of my dreams.
Thank you for allowing me this month to renew my mind, body and soul.
Thank you for not making me feel guilty for taking time for myself.
Thank you for providing a stable home for our children so I don’t have to worry about them when I’m not there.
Thank you for understanding that my happiness will directly affect our children’s happiness.
Thank you for not making it about custody schedules or money.
Thank you for being excited about keeping the kids for a month instead of it being a burden.
Thank you for always listening without judgement when I am worried about the kids.
Thank you for everything both of you do to keep our kids happy and healthy.
From the bottom of this stressed out, single mom’s heart…. THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME THIS GIFT OF TIME TO RENEW MYSELF!
If you are interested in learning more about how we have created this unique co-parenting relationship please feel free to check out our new book that Tina (step-mom) and I (bio-mom) co-authored together!